He's home, starting all the Honey Do's. Nothing better than having him home. All he wants to do is take care of me, and do stuff around the house. I love my hubby so much and so thankful for this time. I think that I got so in the routine of him being gone that I forgot how wonderful it was to have him here!!
See you all in a couple weeks.
Tuesday, June 15, 2010
Monday, June 7, 2010
"You know what you got into"
Against my better judgement, I will write this. SO, for those of you who don't know, and are civilians, it is NEVER appropriate to remind me, or any other spouse of a deployed service member that we "knew what we were getting into". YES we did know, but the necessity on your part to make such a stupid statement, when you have absolutely no clue what we go through, is well, less than intelligent.
But I want to talk to the other MIL spouses, those that are actually allowed to make that otherwise retarded statement. YOU did now what you got into when you married your soldier. You knew that you were marrying a soldier and, more than likely, in the political climate of the world today, that means they were going to deploy. Well, they did, and that is wonderful that they are there when their country calls. I admire the patriotism! Listen carefully, STOP BITCHING about the GD ARMY!!!! And how thankful that you will be when this is over!!!! Yes, I know, I know, I set up this blog to vent my frustrations about deployment, and there are quite a few, I'll give you that. But how about having some form of pride for what your spouse is doing? Stop blaming the Army for freaking everything, they did not force your spouse to sign up, they were not made to become part of the Army when they turned 18, we have a VOLUNTEER Army here in America, which, I know this may shock you, your spouse VOLUNTEERED for. Maybe you need to take another look at that, and stop blaming the Army for everything that goes wrong in your life. Be thankful for all that it has provided you or your spouse, and have some pride in it. MAYBE, Just maybe, you need to take a look at everything else, look deeper into things and figure out who really is to blame for your husband not getting promoted, or his extension, or his miserable experience. It's kinda like looking into a mirror, except you will see the truth about your situation, and not the fabricated one that you've made up in your head, or your spouse has made up. Yes, being married to someone in the military is difficult, but you married them. If you did not want to be married to a soldier, well, then you shouldn't have married one. IF you thought you were going to get it any easier because you married a Guardsman or a Reservist, think again, because with not living on post and having to move every couple years comes the lack of benefits, not having that great retirement after 20 years, and not being promoted as quickly as the full-timers. That is the reality of your situation, try actually living it, embrace it, after all it is the life you CHOOSE!! Try accepting the choices you've made, and making the most of them. After all, your spouse has one of the most noble jobs, maybe try being a noble spouse.
But I want to talk to the other MIL spouses, those that are actually allowed to make that otherwise retarded statement. YOU did now what you got into when you married your soldier. You knew that you were marrying a soldier and, more than likely, in the political climate of the world today, that means they were going to deploy. Well, they did, and that is wonderful that they are there when their country calls. I admire the patriotism! Listen carefully, STOP BITCHING about the GD ARMY!!!! And how thankful that you will be when this is over!!!! Yes, I know, I know, I set up this blog to vent my frustrations about deployment, and there are quite a few, I'll give you that. But how about having some form of pride for what your spouse is doing? Stop blaming the Army for freaking everything, they did not force your spouse to sign up, they were not made to become part of the Army when they turned 18, we have a VOLUNTEER Army here in America, which, I know this may shock you, your spouse VOLUNTEERED for. Maybe you need to take another look at that, and stop blaming the Army for everything that goes wrong in your life. Be thankful for all that it has provided you or your spouse, and have some pride in it. MAYBE, Just maybe, you need to take a look at everything else, look deeper into things and figure out who really is to blame for your husband not getting promoted, or his extension, or his miserable experience. It's kinda like looking into a mirror, except you will see the truth about your situation, and not the fabricated one that you've made up in your head, or your spouse has made up. Yes, being married to someone in the military is difficult, but you married them. If you did not want to be married to a soldier, well, then you shouldn't have married one. IF you thought you were going to get it any easier because you married a Guardsman or a Reservist, think again, because with not living on post and having to move every couple years comes the lack of benefits, not having that great retirement after 20 years, and not being promoted as quickly as the full-timers. That is the reality of your situation, try actually living it, embrace it, after all it is the life you CHOOSE!! Try accepting the choices you've made, and making the most of them. After all, your spouse has one of the most noble jobs, maybe try being a noble spouse.
Tuesday, June 1, 2010
Depressed? Angry? Tired of it?
So, my hubby thinks I'm depressed. REALLY? I am doing everything here at home. I've been doing it with one bad foot for 5 months and I'm pretty sure that my foot is stil not healed. I've been working my rear end off, going to school, found and bought us a house, moved into said house, and am now trying to decorate it. I am organizing a housewarming party for when he gets home, cause he wanted to have it then rather than later, and quite frankly, I'm tired! I'm tired of doing everything myself, I'm tired that my hubby hasn't been home, really home in 11 months. Oh ya, his LTC wanted him to work 2 hours from home for the few months before the deployment. I still have 3 months left on this tour. I am having a difficult week to say the least. I went to a wine festival, and never have I felt so alone. Usually I have no problems with going to any type of event, especially when I am going with other military families. None of these that I went with were in the midst of a deployment. I've never felt so completely alone in a large group of people. It sucked. I am one seriously cranky girl this week. I am ready to have my husband hone, to have some help, to see his face, to be "normal" again. He's been trying to cheer me up, but I'm just being mean, I don't mean to be, but it's like this nasty person has taken over my personality and I can't get rid of her. I am hoping it passes quickly, I don't want to be mean to him, or to anyone. I feel like garbage this week, and nothing is helping, not even cookies or wine. You KNOW that's a stretch when cookies or wine doesn't work.
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